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Integrating the 4 pillars to live a happy life

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What does a happy life look like? What does a life worth living to the fullest look like, so that at the end of each day we feel fulfilled and eager to live a new day?

I believe that in order to live a fulfilling life, we must integrate the 4 pillars of life into a unified whole. These pillars are: health, wealth, love (relationships) and happiness itself.

There are 4 pillars generally valid for all people, regardless of culture, age, location, gender or ethnicity.

Unfortunately, many people live their lives in a way that leads to their separation. Their work, their sports activities, their love life, their family, everything seems to be separate from each other.

But the good life, the truly happy life can only be achieved by integrating all 4 pillars.

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It’s no wonder we’re doing well romantically, socially, and healthy if we only live for the weekend or the days off.

We earn a lot for nothing, we do well socially, if on the inside we feel miserable.

In vain we earn well, we have time for ourselves and for our loved ones, if we are not healthy and cannot enjoy those moments as we should.

There is a lack of balance and balance between all of these 4 elements and even though sometimes life can’t be balanced (and I’m not saying it should be), we can still make it so that we integrate all the components into a unified whole.

How do you approach the integration of the 4 pillars for a happy life?

Ask yourself in your life, what exactly do you really want? And don’t just think about the current moment. Think of all the years you will live, even though none of us knows how long they will last.

Reflect on your past experiences.

When were you at your healthiest?

When did you feel the richest? (I don’t necessarily mean material wealth, but spiritual wealth, experiences, relationships…)

When did you love the most and when were you happiest?

Of course, these moments do not come bundled together at the same time. That’s how life works. But that doesn’t mean you can’t work towards such an integrated life.

To do this, we need to change small things in our life gradually to reach eudaimonia.

What is eudaimonia?

– Eudaimonia is a philosophical concept that defines the actions that lead to happiness. The term comes from the Greek language and translates as “happiness” in the condition of “good spirits”. In Aristotle’s works, eudaimonia was perceived as the best attainable human condition. –

What does a life where health, wealth, relationships and happiness are harmoniously integrated look like for you? And I don’t mean thinking about a utopian ideal, but about a real, tangible life that suits you, not others.

Let’s take each pillar in turn and analyze them more deeply.

health

Health – the first pillar towards a happy life

Health, that precious treasure that we are always looking for, but that we often neglect. We take it for granted, something that will always be there for us. But should it be so?

We all know the importance of a healthy diet, exercise and proper rest.

But are we giving them the time and attention they deserve?

Integrating health into your life isn’t just about running on the treadmill for an hour a day.

It means making healthy choices every day, listening to your body and giving it what it needs.

People often talk about happiness, but rarely link it to health. I say that it is necessary to be successful in your career, have a happy family, travel and live unique experiences. All these are valuable elements, but without health, they are unattainable.

“Good health is sufficient to achieve many of our material goals. You need excellent health to be successful.” – Rob C. Robertson

Now think of yourself, your body as a vehicle. Would you drive a car with flat tires or a broken engine? Of course not. And yet, we don’t realize how often we force our own “vehicle” to work at full capacity without giving it proper maintenance.

So what can we do? First, let’s understand that health is an investment, not an expense. It is like the foundation of a building, a fundamental pillar. Without a solid foundation, the building cannot stand.

We take the example of great athletes, such as Serena Williams or Cristiano Ronaldo. They have achieved so much not only through their talent, but also through their tireless attention to their health. And it’s not just about diet or exercise, it’s also about mental health. Meditation, positive thinking and stress management are equally important.

It is easy to neglect this aspect of our lives, especially when we are young. But isn’t it better to invest in health now than to pay the price for negligence later?

Health is not a fad. It is necessary, mandatory. It’s the difference between living and surviving.

Think about it: when was the last time you took time for yourself to take care of your body and mind?

If the answer is “a long time” or “never”, then you should ask yourself why and take action. Don’t wait until it’s too late. Health is the first step to a happy life.

love

Love – the second pillar to a happy life

Love is the strongest human emotion, the deepest source of happiness, but also of suffering. It is such a simple feeling and at the same time, so complex.

How important is love to a happy life?

They say love makes the world go round. This idea can refer to self-love, love for your partner, love for family, love for friends or love for life. It is that magical energy that gives us the power to continue, to evolve, to adapt.

“Love is not looking at someone, it is looking together in the same direction.” – Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

How is love evolving in your life?

Do you consider yourself a person who knows how to love?

Or do you often feel lost, misunderstood, rejected? There are times when we refuse to adapt to the idea of love, out of fear or pride.

We can learn a lot from historical figures who expressed their love in remarkable ways.

Queen Victoria, for example, loved her husband, Prince Albert, with a passion that endured even after his death. Her love was not just a feeling, it was an act of will, a commitment to the good of the other.

But, as Queen Victoria pointed out, love is not a solitary act. It is a dance, a game, an interaction. We cannot love in a vacuum. Love involves reciprocity, communication, and adaptation.

Love is not a luxury.

It is vital.

Without love, our life is poorer.

If you close yourself to love, you close yourself to life itself.

When was the last time you really opened your heart? When did you love without reservation, expectations, or fear of being hurt? If the answer is “a long time” or “never”, then you should ask yourself why and take action.

Love is one of the pillars of a happy life. Love is not just an emotion, it is an action, it is a decision.

Love and you will be loved. Love and you will be happy.

Love is also not just about romantic relationships.

It’s about self-love, love for others, love for your community, love for nature, love for life itself.

How can you integrate love into every aspect of your life? How can you give and receive love in a way that brings you happiness and fulfillment?

wealth

Wealth – the third pillar to a happy life

Life is not only about money, although it is an important part. It’s about abundance in all its forms – time, knowledge, and freedom.

It’s not enough to work 80 hours a week to raise money if you don’t have time to enjoy it or the people you love.

The question you should be asking yourself is, “How can I integrate wealth into my life so that it improves my quality of life, not makes it worse?”

Wealth is a word that evokes various reactions.

For some, it is a symbol of success.

For others, it is a source of anxiety or frustration.

But, as we discussed about health, we need to think of wealth not just as a goal, but as a tool that allows us to live our lives to the fullest.

Of course, maybe everyone would like to be rich. But what does that really mean to you? Is wealth simply about having more money in your bank account?

Or maybe it means having the time and freedom to do the things you love?

“Wealth consists not so much in having great possessions as in having few wants.” – Epictetus

How do you manage to accumulate wealth? First, learn to adapt to the economic environment in which you live.

Understand that the economy is constantly changing, just like the world we live in. Just as a lion must hunt to survive, you must find ways to thrive in this environment.

A notable example is that of Elon Musk, who changed the world by adapting to new technologies and innovations. He used his wealth not only to improve his personal life but also to make significant contributions to society.

Wealth is not a luxury but a necessity. Not just in the sense of having money in your pocket, but having the resources to achieve your goals and live your life on your own terms.

It is important to remember that wealth is not a zero-sum game. In other words, just because someone else gets rich doesn’t mean you get poorer. In fact, wealth creation is often a win-win process.

Think about when was the last time you invested in yourself?

When did you invest in your knowledge, your skills, your business?

If the answer is “a long time” or “never”, then you should ask yourself why and take action. Wealth is one of the pillars of a happy life. It’s time to get serious about it.

Happiness – the fourth pillar to a happy life

Even if it sounds paradoxical, happiness itself is one of the pillars leading to a happy life.

Happiness is a rather subjective concept, because what brings happiness to one person may not bring happiness to another.

But at its core, happiness is being at peace with yourself, enjoying the present, and having a positive hope for the future.

The search for it guides most of our actions and decisions. We are undoubtedly happiness-seeking beings.

And yet, what does it really mean to be happy?

We often think of happiness as an end goal, a destination we arrive at after accomplishing certain things. But true happiness isn’t just an outcome, it’s a process, it’s a journey.

True happiness is presence, connection, authenticity.

“Happiness is a direction, not a place.” – Sydney J. Harris

How do you adapt to the idea of happiness?

Are you a person who lives in the present or are you stuck in the past or future?

Can you find happiness in the simple things, in connections with others, in harmony with nature?

We can think of the Dalai Lama, the spiritual leader of Tibetan Buddhism. For him, happiness is not a goal, but a way of life. Through practices like meditation, he connects with the present and finds happiness in this awareness.

Happiness is not a privilege. It is a right. It is our essence as human beings. If you close your heart to happiness, you close your heart to life itself.

Happiness is one of the pillars of a fulfilled life. It’s not just an emotion, it’s a way of life. Live in the present. Connect yourself. Be authentic. This is what it means to be truly happy.

How you can cultivate happiness every day

When we think about health, wealth, love, and happiness, it can be tempting to treat them as separate entities. And indeed, each has a unique role in our lives.

However, to truly experience a fulfilled life, it is essential to realize how these four components interconnect and intertwine.

Health is the foundation on which everything is built. Without physical and mental well-being, the rest becomes much more difficult to achieve. It is essential to take care of our health as it gives us the energy and vitality needed to enjoy the other aspects of life.

Love is the bond that binds us to others and to ourselves. It is our source of compassion, understanding and empathy. Through love, we connect to others and understand ourselves better. Cultivating love in our lives is essential because it gives us a sense of belonging and being valued.

Wealth, in the broadest sense, is the resources we have at our disposal—not just our finances, but also our time, knowledge, skills, and relationships. It is important to use our wealth wisely, to invest it in the things that really matter to us and that bring us joy and fulfillment.

Happiness, in turn, is the result of the interaction between these three components. When we are healthy, when we use our resources wisely, and when we love and are loved, then we experience happiness. Happiness is not just a state of well-being, it is a feeling of fulfillment and meaning in life.

Indeed, the integration of these four components leads to a truly happy life.

Instead of focusing on one or the other, we should strive to weave them into a harmonious fabric.

For example, we can use our wealth (resources) to improve health and foster loving relationships. Or we can use our health to enjoy our relationships more and increase our wealth.

By understanding and accepting the interconnectedness of these four components, we can begin to live a life that not only feels fulfilled but is truly fulfilled.

And this is the key to a truly happy life: not just having these components but living them in an integrated and harmonious way.

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